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"Our Afrikan Heritage" magazine is thrilled to resume our discussions through our very own BLOG SPOT. In light of the launching of this BLOG I wanted to start our discourse with a topic that is sure to grab everyone's attention. What better topic to do this than SEX. The particular area of SEX we will delve into today will be "Afrikan women and orgasms". The topic "Do Afrikan Women Have Orgasms"?
I was reading an article written by Love Doctor Yangki Christine Akiteng. The very first thing that the good Love Doctor states is that "in North America the biggest thing in sexuality is the orgasm". This is clearly seen as entire sections of bookstores are dedicated to the mechanics of sex as though new bedroom breakthroughs are being made every day.
The question was then posed to hundreds of Afrikan women, "do Afrikan women have orgasms"? The answer "no we do not have orgasms".
Before we dive in to this topic, it should be noted that Afrikans do not like talking about sex with outsiders. This is attributed to having their culture and ways exploited for centuries by those who have come in the name of friendship. The result of this is now a high suspicion and unwillingness to share something that is so sacred to their culture.
The Love Doctor noted that due to the unwillingness to talk about sex, it was initially difficult to explore orgasms and the Afrikan woman. Persistence and patience eventually won out and the questions was then asked by the Afrikan women "what does orgasm mean"? Many Afrikan women thought orgasms were a white woman's thing. The fact of the matter is that very few Afrikan languages have a word for orgasm. One white woman who was present during the discussion made the assertion, "seeing that there is no word for orgasm in most Afrikan languages, it must mean that Afrikan women don't have orgasms".
After the barriers were broken and the group of Afrikan women started to open up, they said when they spoke about sex amongst themselves they spoke of being "satisfied, releasing the flood or busting the bubble". As would be expected these terms spoke to the amount of sexual fluid that was released during the act of sex. It is noted that in Uganda, some motels and hotels place plastic under the sheets due to the amount of sexual fluids released by women of certain ethnic groupings.
Moreover, the technique used in these cultures is not one of penetration but that of rhythmic circular stroking of the clitoris. There are many jokes and songs of taking a washing basin and mop into the bedroom and teasing the thing until it rained. Yet we never see any research done and books written about Afrikan exhilarating wet sex that soak the two people in sexual fluids sometimes gluing them together. All you ever see written about Afrikan women's sex lives, is the barbaric nature of dry sex. Dry sex is not common and is found in very few isolated cultures. In fact the women said it was because they get so wet that they had to dry themselves.
Afrikans perform sex in the same way they dance. That is why learning how to twist the buttocks and pelvis in rapid circular motions is almost mandatory to Afrikans. The abandon with which an Afrikan man or woman dances says a lot about his erotic abilities.
Afrikan women understand that there is more to sex than a mind blowing orgasm. Afrikan women accept that while it is wonderful to have an orgasm, the fusion of the two bodies and spirits often is far more pleasurable. They are never worried about if they will have a orgasm or not.
The Afrikan women being interviewed said "we are not concerned about how we perform, how we look in this or that Victoria Secret number or how long we can put on a striptease or stage performance. We are so grossly engrossed in what we are doing "we lose it".
Afrikan cultures have what is called "losing one's mind", "moment of truth" or "small death". This is said when a person has no recollection of the sexual experience and has to be told about it by their partner. Afrikans say the most they can remember is being in another world, far away from here.
"Losing one's mind" may include talking gibberish, sobbing loudly, singing, laughing hysterically, fainting or some other unusual expression. "Losing one's mind" is about the quietening of the chatter of the mind and being so immersed in the moment that one experiences an ecstatic state. In the west this may be considered a trance; to Afrikans this is just good sex.
It might be a shock to many western researchers and Afrikan Urbanites (modern Afrikans) that some Afrikan women reach orgasm without any physical contact, no man or toys. As part of "pleasure" education curriculum at Puberty Rites of Passage to Adulthood, young women train their vaginal muscles to contract and ripple when they are squeezed. The rippling causes a kind of squeezing and releasing action that moves across the vagina. In lovemaking this is felt by the penis as a milking effect. Men have been known to cry out loud, "I have been milked".
When the vaginal muscles are in good shape, an initiated Afrikan woman can have an orgasm while sitting right in front of you while saying "no she does not have orgasms".
All human beings can get to sexual ecstasy if only they would remove the stumbling blocks that our western experience has put in our way.
"Our Afrikan Heritage" magazine looks forward to your responses to this blog.
One Perfect Love.