I am going to steer this blog down a line that is very touching to men, penis size. The Afrikan male has contracted the stigma of being well endowed but what about the man that is not? I have had conversation with men who have said that after going on several dates with a woman, when it came time to having sex it brought about a nervousness caused by insecurities about the size of their penis. Why should this be? Intellectually, a man knows that the size of his penis shouldn't be specifically relevant in a relationship, to him or to a woman. His common sense tells him that it will certainly not be the major or controlling factor in a woman’s response to him. And yet . . . he can’t help believing that it is.
To start let us take a look at some research figures done on penis sizes. When the Kinsey Institute reviewed its founder’s data thirty years after it was published, in the light of subsequent findings, it showed that one man in a hundred reaches beyond the 5 to 7-inch erectile median to 8; that seven men in a thousand go beyond 8; and only one in a thousand touches 9. But Durex and the Definitive Penis Internet surveys, while stressing that their core findings are consistent with Kinsey, have cautiously proposed that there are more very big penises – between four and seven men in every hundred reaching 8 inches, between thirty and forty in every thousand reaching 9, and between ten and thirty in a thousand reaching beyond. And where the institute’s data showed that erections above 9 inches are so rare (a word, incidentally, that Kinsey himself always used rather than ‘big’) as to be statistically immeasurable, both surveys have suggested that one man in a hundred posts double figures.
The problem for researchers has been that they have had to rely on participants providing their own measurements. The bulk of Kinsey’s data came from self-measurements (marked off on the edge of returned postcards); all the data in the Durex and the Definitive Penis survey undertakings were collected in this way – the DPS giving the average erection as 6.3 inches, with Durex giving it as 6.4. Are penises, then, like people, getting bigger? If men’s ears have pricked up at this point, the answer is no: the depersonalized and anonymous nature of the Internet almost certainly explains the apparent increase.
In 2001 Lifestyle Condoms (on the same mission as Durex) carried out the only large-scale study not to rely on self-measurements – and turned the penis issue on its head. After getting three hundred volunteers to submit their aroused manhood to the attention of two tape-wielding nurses under the constant supervision of a doctor, Lifestyle reported the average erection to be 5.8 inches – about half an inch less than the above averaged averages. It’s worth noting that five years earlier two small-scale studies (one in Germany, one in Brazil) had pharmacologically induced erections in volunteers and both had averaged out at 5.7 inches. Even more startlingly, the same year the Journal of Urology had published the findings of a study in which eighty normal men of various ethnicities had also been pharmacologically aroused (the object in this case was ultimately to help in counselling others considering penile augmentation) – and arrived at an average of 5.08, almost three-quarters of an inch less than Lifestyle’s.
While most mockery of men’s penises comes from other men, women are adept at verbal downsizing. One study, published in April in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, found that women preferred larger penises only up to a point (anything bigger than a flaccid length of 2.99 inches (7.59 centimeters) did not additionally impress women), and preferences also varied based on a guy's height. A 2012 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found similarly ambivalent female preferences. In that study, women who experienced frequent vaginal orgasms were much more likely than other women to express an interest in better-endowed guys. For women who didn't prefer vaginal orgasms, penis size was a far less pressing matter. Maybe to put a man's mind at ease when it comes to his penis size as he embarks on a new sexual experience, the question should be posed to the woman, what type of orgasms does she prefer.
Now we know the average erect penis is estimated to be somewhere around six inches in length. If you’re one of the millions who fall a bit short of this statistic, you may have concerns about size in relation to your sexual performance. Fret not: While it’s true that size can have its advantages, it’s not really the length that matters. Additionally, women don’t particularly enjoy having their cervices rammed into, which often happens when a man is overly endowed. There is nothing sexy about painful intercourse, and that’s precisely what many women complain of when a man’s penis is too large. If you follow some of our tips for having mind-blowing foreplay and combine them with the right kind of penetration, a small penis can give a woman even more pleasure than a guy who is well-endowed. Read on as we discuss the best small penis sex positions and how to make the most of them.
Before you make your entrance
Obviously, there’s a great deal more to sex than just penetration, and most men fully recognize the benefits of foreplay. The man with a smaller-sized penis should take even greater advantage of this, prolonging foreplay until his partner is fully and completely aroused; the closer she is to orgasm at the start of actual penetration, the easier it will be for her to climax via one of our small penis sex positions.
Focus on foreplay
Foreplay should include anything and everything your woman enjoys. Kissing and caressing are always appreciated, but don’t limit yourself to the old standbys. Not if you want to really rock her world. Toss in some sexy pillow talk to start, and be sure to have her favorite sex toys on hand. If she’s a bit kinky, you may want to try some sensual biting or even a bit of a spanking. The key here is to lavish her with the kind of attention you know she responds well to.
Stimulate the clitoris
Prior to intercourse, you’ll want to spend as much quality time with the clitoris as she can handle. Whether you do this via oral sex or manual stimulation, make sure she climaxes at least once before you move on to penetration; this will help alleviate any performance anxiety you might experience once you’re ready to try the following small penis sex positions.
1- The doggie ......When performed at the correct angle, the doggie can make even the smallest penis feel quite large. You’ll want her positioned in such a way that she’s able to comfortably place her head and shoulders on the pillow, while having her bottom raised in the air. To help create the most effective angle, her back should be arched and her thighs should be drawn together. Not only is this the easiest small penis sex position on our list, but it’s also one of the most popular.
Little tip: Lean forward during penetration, maintaining as much physical contact as you can comfortably manage; this will keep things intimate, enabling her to reach her sexual peak as quickly as possible.
2 - The antelope ...... This is a nice variant of the doggie. Both of you should kneel on the floor leaning over your couch or equivalent furniture. Open her legs from behind and enter. This position is especially great as her hands are free to self-stimulate, if she so chooses. Backdoor positions ooze power so add some light spanking or role-play to spice it up.
3- The snake ..... For this small penis sex position, you’ll want your woman lying flat on her belly with her legs closed. For the sake of ease and comfort, slip a pillow beneath her hips until her bottom arches upward. Keeping your knees bent, straddle her hips while maintaining an upright position and place your genitals just behind her bottom. Gently spread her thighs just enough to allow penetration and slide your way in. Take care to keep your weight off her body during intercourse; if you feel the need to brace yourself against something, bend forward until you’re able to touch the bed — it won’t detract much from the position.
Little tip: If you really want a tight fit, hold her thighs together as you penetrate her.
4- The rabbit ears .... Lay your woman down on her back, spread her thighs and draw her legs up until her knees are close to her ears. Slip a pillow under her bottom, as this will place her vagina at an angle better suited for this small penis sex position. When you penetrate her, it will feel as though you’re filling her vagina completely. Once sex starts to get wild, however, it can be difficult for a woman to hold her legs in that position. We suggest using your own arms to hold her knees in place; simply place either arm in the crook of her knee before you brace your hands on the bed.
Little tip: This is an excellent position for her to masturbate in. You may want to encourage her to slip a hand between your bodies to stimulate her clitoris while you’re rocking her world from inside.
5- The V-formation .... With your woman lying flat on her back, move between her thighs and enter her as you normally would from a kneeling position. Next, raise her legs and grasp either one around the ankle; you’re going to elevate her legs entirely and then spread them apart until they form a “V.” You’ll be able to thrust quite deeply from this small penis sex position, so you may want to gain leverage by bracing your palms against the wall or a headboard. To do this without changing the position, simply drape her legs over your shoulders.
Little tip: This position will give you an excellent opportunity to tease her clitoris. Free one of your hands up by resting one of her legs on your shoulder, and stimulate her clit until she orgasms.
While it’s true that society tends to place a great deal of importance on size, the simple truth is that a penis of any size can bring a woman to orgasm, provided the man makes the most of what he has. Yes, that might mean you need to stimulate her clit during intercourse, but that’s often necessary with a large penis as well. Foreplay is what matters most, combine that with our small penis sex positions and your woman will be more than satisfied.